Mother, the sweetest term on earth which the person whom we first met after we get born. A mother is a person, who carries us in her womb for 9 months by bearing lots of pain and discomfort and passes most crucial time at every moment. However, she always becomes happy by thinking about us in her real life. Nothing could be compared with the love of the mother. A mother is very ordinary woman who never considers her own happiness in front of her kids and has a selfless soul and very kind heart full of love and care. She is the first teacher of everyone whom teachings are always proved to be precious and valuable all through the life. She is a woman with strong willpower who always teaches us of how to face the toughest challenges of the life and inspires us to achieve good things in our life by overcoming all the hardships of the life. She stays with us always and cares for us every moment. We can never compare her genuine love, affection and care all through our life.
People whose mothers are alive and healthy- are really lucky and blessed with lots of blessings from God, because mothers are busy. A mother’s daily activities can not be counted. She does unlimited works for whole day long and continues nonstop until she feels sick. She considers herself fully responsible for her child from waking up in the morning till sleeping in the night. She sacrifices her whole life for the highest good of her child.
However, hardly a person realizes their unconditional contributions, love and affection when their mother became old and this is why, for remembering their contribution in our life, Mother’s day is needed to celebrate in order to highlight mother’s role in our everyday life. Now –a -days many children almost forgot their mother’s contributions. They think it is her responsibility to do everything for their child whether she has capacity or not.
Over the plethora of carelessness, they forgot their responsibilities and never pay attention to their mother’s old age. They spend their second childhood at that vulnerable stage. They too want to be loved and looked after at their old age and expect attention to their children. Most of them at their old age do not have any complain about their home. They just want to stay and keep in touch with their son or daughter. Sadly, most of the children at their adult age do not want to keep their mother with them and even consider her as a burden. Some feel in such situations that they do not get time to take care their mother at their old age, as both husband and wife might get too busy with their jobs and many other works. In this situation they are compelled to send their mother into old homes and they do not meet with their mother even in a year- which is unimaginably painful for their mother. They think that their mother stays in good environment at old homes, surrounded with many old mothers and they enjoy and recover their loneliness with each other. What they do not realize is the pathetic reality- how much pain those mother get when they are thrown out of their own families and even from their homes. No matter how pleasurable an old home can get to be- they cannot breathe properly there even if they stay in a good environment, surrounded with many people sharing the same, barbaric fate.
Why the world needs a mother day in anyway? Well, if there is no mother day, the busy sons and daughters may not have any time to meet with their mothers even in a year. Mothers are not selfish creatures, they obviously wish their children become successful in this competitive world. Besides a mother day should not get criticized at a broader level- there is no harm to celebrate a day in the name of mothers.
For these aforementioned busy people, mother day brings a chance to celebrate bringing in mind to their mothers’ contribution. In this occasion, many sons and daughters meet their mothers and celebrate the mother day. However the reality is getting darker day by day. Now many people take the advantage of this day to avoid the tag of being careless by visiting their mothers in this particular day and forget for the next 364 days. Making her happy for that one day, clicking a selfie and uploading it on social media & forgetting her for the entire year would only make a son/daughter caring on social media but can never fulfill their affectionate mothers’ heart which should had been the main reason.
Now when we are talking about the scheduling, the scenario should get different. We don't need any special day to make the mothers feel their worth. If we cannot make some time and tell how much we feel the love, care and affection towards our beloved mothers, we might not get our chances to tell them later. Mother always remains the most special human being on earth- no day can be enough to express the affection towards her. So we should always keep in touch with our mothers, they should not stay in old homes when they are older. If the situation compelled in worse that they need to be send into old homes, then at least meet them regularly and bring them near to you so that you can meet at least every weekly holiday. We must keep in mind that everything can be changed but a mothers’ love towards her children can never be changed. Mother's love is the only loan which you can't clear in your life time even if you work hard day and night or spend millions and billions!
Jakia Begum, Ph.D Researcher Gender and Development Studies AIT, Thailand.